Archive for October, 2006
October 23rd, 2006
What is jealousy?
Jealousy is an emotion based on insecurity, relating to the belief that a relationship isn’t stable. This leads to fears of losing someone that’s precious to you, or that she’ll find someone better than you, and so on.
Degrees of jealousy
Cute
It’s perfectly normal to have reservations about your girlfriend going to a strip bar with friends, or not enjoying how much they drool over some guy in a magazine. That kind of jealousy is harmless and normal.
October 22nd, 2006
I know that one of the best techniques for healing emotional issues is to talk about how you feel and why and how you can move on. What I’ve found on the internet is a distinct lack of discussion groups for passive aggressive people. There’s discussion groups for just about anything else, but not for that.
So I created one:
So if you’ve stumbled onto this blog post while looking for information or discussion groups for passive aggressives, please feel free to join the group and join in on the healing.
October 22nd, 2006
As part of my growth and healing, I’ve found this guide to help me avoid passive aggression. From looking at it and understanding what I need to work on, you can probably understand where my ‘flaws’ are.
To avoid being passive aggressive with others I can:
- try to be assertive, open, and honest with my negative feelings or anger.
- warn people to “read” my behavior rather than my words if they want to know my feelings.
- confront myself with my inconsistent behavior and challenge myself to explain it.
- take the risk to confront my anger assertively and “on the spot” so that I can bring my behavior in line with my feelings.
- work at making my behavior consistent with my feelings.
- change the way I interact with people and make my relationships more honest.
- admit that I have been a liar.
- work at being more honest with people even if it results in a conflict.
- identify the irrational thinking that prevents me from confronting people when I am angry.
- learn how to become assertive with my negative feelings.
- accept that it is OK to have conflict and disagreement.
- learn to compromise and come to a “win-win” solution.
Probably the biggest shock to my system has been acknowledging how much I’ve been lying to myself and to others throughout my life. That’s been the hardest to deal with, and come to terms with.
October 21st, 2006
One of the things that I’ve been neglecting lately is blogging about my passions, the things that interest me most of all, and which excite me and inspire me. For some reason, the biggest passion I seem to have is centred around politics. But there’s also spirituality and philosophy. Three topics that I need to write more about.
So I just wanted to let you know I’ll be writing more about my passions as time goes by.
If you want to reply and tell me what YOUR passions are, that’ll be cool too. We can share our passions.
October 21st, 2006
I know that as I change, so too can my blog. But really, my (old) blog doesn’t have all the features that I really like about this new blog.
I’m using Blogger’s new blogger system, which is currently in beta. Apparently they’re going to transfer the system over to the old format. I don’t want to wait, and I also think that because I have a customised template that I created myself, it won’t work with Blogger’s new formatting. So I’ve created a new blog with the new system in order to smoothen out the transition for me.
October 21st, 2006
Everything changes - including me. I’ve started this new blog because I’m changing. I’m growing, and in ways I never thought I would.
I recently realised that I’ve got a whole heap of issues from my past which I hadn’t dealt with, mainly because I never knew about them. I’ve had personality issues which resulted in me engaging in subtle acts of self-sabotage throughout my life, constantly ‘rebelling’ against perceived auuthority figures. These figures have included anyone who IS an authority figure, and anyone who takes on the role of an authority figure - including myself.
October 21st, 2006
I am so glad that you are a part of my life. It is a privilege - to know you, to share myself with you, and to walk together on the paths that take us in so many beautiful directions.
When I am with you, I know that I am in teh presence of someone who makes my life more complete than I ever dreamed it could be. I turn to you for trust, and you give it openly. I look to you for inspiration, for answers, and for encouragement, and you lift my spirits up and take my thoughts to places where my troubles seem much further away and my joys feel like they’re going to stay in my life forever.
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