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6 Responses to “Passing on your life lessons”

1. Stu True Posted: Nov 14th, 2006 at

   1 Hi Alan, why are we worth it? Reply to this comment.

2. Alan Posted: Nov 14th, 2006 at

   2 Hi Stu. We’re worth it simply because we exist and have the capacity to love and do good things. Any feelings relating to the opposite are usually based on how others have made us feel about ourselves. If we’re made to feel unworthy by ignorant parents, for example, it can set a pattern throughout our life, where all we’re doing is living up to our parents beliefs. We’re basing our own beliefs about ourselves on what other people think. We need to break away from that pattern, if it exists in us, and recognise that our capacity for love and doing good things is entirely up to us, rather than the mistaken judgements of people who don’t truly know us. Our capacity to love ourselves and forgive our mistakes is up to us as well. We are the only ones who truly know ourselves, and know the circumstances of our actions. We can often do bad things because of our own ignorance, and then hate ourselves for the consequences of our actions. We’re allowed to make mistakes. It’s how we learn and how we grow. What’s important is how we deal with those mistakes. Loving ourselves and forgiving ourselves is part of how we move forward. We’re worth it because of how much good we can do for ourselves and for others - if we only let ourselves believe it. Reply to this comment.

3. Stu True Posted: Nov 15th, 2006 at

   3 Thanks for the reply man. That’s interesting. So you would say we are good people who do bad things sometimes? S Reply to this comment.

4. Alan Posted: Nov 15th, 2006 at

   4 Yes, definitely. Most people don’t realise how much we’re worth to them, and they say hateful things sometimes. When we’re impressionable, as children, we believe them. Those beliefs can last for a lifetime. We have the ability to change our beliefs by understanding that they’re based on the mistaken perceptions of others. We decide what our worth is to ourselves, no one else. And we’re the ones who can love ourselves for the beautiful human being that we are, and we’re the ones who can forgive ourselves for any wrongdoings we’ve done, because we didn’t know any better. But now that we know, and now that we can love and forgive ourselves for our mistakes, it’s up to us to make sure we learn from it all. To start loving ourselves allows us to love others, really and truly. Reply to this comment.

5. Stu True Posted: Nov 15th, 2006 at

   5 Yes, you are right, I do believe we are able to change our beliefs by understanding that they are based on the mistaken perceptions of others. Those are true words Alan. Jesus says in Matthew 7:11 that we are evil people who good sometimes. I put it to you Alan that your subjective view of what people are like, is such a mistaken perception. Jesus as God gives us the objective truth about what we are like, I relay his words to you which carry the authority of true truth. Forgiving ourselves is a futile exercise when our wrongs are committed against someone else friend. Jesus, the most loving man that ever lived told us that there are real and serious consequences for our wrongs. He again spoke with authority on how he had come especially to deal with those wrongs and bring about true forgiveness. What do you think about this? S Reply to this comment.

6. Alan Posted: Nov 15th, 2006 at

   6 Some of what’s in the bible is good wisdom, and some of it is, I believe, rubbish. You can, ultimately, believe whatever you want to believe. But you are the one who has to decide what is true for you. If you want to believe that you are essentially an evil person who sometimes does good things, that’s your CHOICE. Just because a book says a man said that 2000 years ago, doesn’t make it true for you or for anyone else. If you want to hate yourself so much and believe that yes, you are evil, then you go right ahead. But if you want to make your life into something that is of value to you, then you’ll start listening to your own heart instead of what someone else wants you to believe. Reply to this comment.