Comments on: Are you a perfectionist? http://www.alanzeyes.com/2007/12/are-you-a-perfectionist.html "What you think about, you bring about." Thu, 08 Jan 2009 19:20:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.7 hourly 1 By: Passion http://www.alanzeyes.com/2007/12/are-you-a-perfectionist.html/comment-page-1#comment-208 Passion Mon, 10 Dec 2007 19:01:00 +0000 http://www2.iserve.co.nz/users/kenmac/alanzeyes.com/htdocs/?p=226#comment-208 I wouldn't categarise myself as a perfectionist always chasing the 'unattainable'. But I am sure there are perfectionist like that. For example, my idealist weight is 48kg which I believe I look the best however I've been a couple kg under for as long as I've became a mother. Not ideal, but once my baby is a bit bigger and more independant I know my ideal weight would come back. By saying I am a perfectionist I mean I have specific standards for certain things but I certainly would not be fixated with it and drive myself or others nuts. I never go that extreme. Perfectionist doesn't have to be extremeist! ;-) <br/><br/>I guess too much personal information here! lol But in general, I do understand the points of this article which is about being flexible, being adapting and accepting things as they are and I am all for it! ;-) I wouldn’t categarise myself as a perfectionist always chasing the ‘unattainable’. But I am sure there are perfectionist like that. For example, my idealist weight is 48kg which I believe I look the best however I’ve been a couple kg under for as long as I’ve became a mother. Not ideal, but once my baby is a bit bigger and more independant I know my ideal weight would come back. By saying I am a perfectionist I mean I have specific standards for certain things but I certainly would not be fixated with it and drive myself or others nuts. I never go that extreme. Perfectionist doesn’t have to be extremeist! ;-)

I guess too much personal information here! lol But in general, I do understand the points of this article which is about being flexible, being adapting and accepting things as they are and I am all for it! ;-)

]]> By: Alan Howard http://www.alanzeyes.com/2007/12/are-you-a-perfectionist.html/comment-page-1#comment-207 Alan Howard Mon, 10 Dec 2007 02:12:00 +0000 http://www2.iserve.co.nz/users/kenmac/alanzeyes.com/htdocs/?p=226#comment-207 As long as your struggle to achieve perfection in your life isn't detracting from your ability to live life, I don't see a problem with it.<br/><br/>However, life is imperfect. People are imperfect. The world is imperfect. (Some say that they are all perfect in their imperfection, but that's another story...) To strive for something that is unattainable can - and does - lead to mental health problems, because perfection is an unattainable goal, and it can drive people crazy. As long as your struggle to achieve perfection in your life isn’t detracting from your ability to live life, I don’t see a problem with it.

However, life is imperfect. People are imperfect. The world is imperfect. (Some say that they are all perfect in their imperfection, but that’s another story…) To strive for something that is unattainable can - and does - lead to mental health problems, because perfection is an unattainable goal, and it can drive people crazy.

]]> By: Passion http://www.alanzeyes.com/2007/12/are-you-a-perfectionist.html/comment-page-1#comment-206 Passion Sun, 09 Dec 2007 20:00:00 +0000 http://www2.iserve.co.nz/users/kenmac/alanzeyes.com/htdocs/?p=226#comment-206 I think I am the first category perfectionist. Over the years I have developed certain 'standards' on things that matter to me and I am not prepared to compromise.<br/> - My house must be clean at all times (except when we are sick). Home is my castle my haven. If my house is clean I can have a 'holiday' in my own home! When my house is clean, I am in good mood and I am a nicer person to everyone. My bedroom has a nice view which contains nothing but a big palm tree, when I jump into bed I know I am in a 5-star hotel! <br/> - My health is important and to keep a good shape means a lot to me. I am a woman and looking good just adds so much to my self identity as a woman. Feeling sexy and wanted is such a wonderful feeling. Thanks to my genes it actually doesn't require much of effort. I never go on diet or skip meals. Moderate exercises and sensible eating is all that takes. I have never been overweight but if that happens perhaps I would go into deep depression for the first time in my life!<br/>- My desk at work is always clean and tidy - My productivity improves and I can think clearer. When my desk was piled with mountains of files on a few rare occasions I found myself disoriented, depressed and grumpy. <br/> - Last but not least, I want to be the perfect mother. In saying that, I don't mean I am struggling to be a perfect mother. I just AM - according to my other half. And it comes naturally!<br/>Oh I don't think I am a perfectionist at work just because my desk is clean. It is a good habit that works for me rather than against me. Although I am a little early most days I always leave on time, not a minute more! <br/>I don't think I need help. I haven't needed help and generally my husband doesn't have an issue with them. Over the years either he has been 'trained' or we have become co-ordinated as a matter of fact he has become a perfectionist himself! He is a 'fitness freak' himself and is a main contributor for maintaining a spotless home! <br/>What I mean is, if being a perfectionist is not causing pain to yourself or nuisances to others, there is nothing wrong with it! But if you are a perfectionist living with a higgledy and piggledy partner then I would imagine some compromise may have to be reached if you want a happy relationship! I think I am the first category perfectionist. Over the years I have developed certain ’standards’ on things that matter to me and I am not prepared to compromise.
- My house must be clean at all times (except when we are sick). Home is my castle my haven. If my house is clean I can have a ‘holiday’ in my own home! When my house is clean, I am in good mood and I am a nicer person to everyone. My bedroom has a nice view which contains nothing but a big palm tree, when I jump into bed I know I am in a 5-star hotel!
- My health is important and to keep a good shape means a lot to me. I am a woman and looking good just adds so much to my self identity as a woman. Feeling sexy and wanted is such a wonderful feeling. Thanks to my genes it actually doesn’t require much of effort. I never go on diet or skip meals. Moderate exercises and sensible eating is all that takes. I have never been overweight but if that happens perhaps I would go into deep depression for the first time in my life!
- My desk at work is always clean and tidy - My productivity improves and I can think clearer. When my desk was piled with mountains of files on a few rare occasions I found myself disoriented, depressed and grumpy.
- Last but not least, I want to be the perfect mother. In saying that, I don’t mean I am struggling to be a perfect mother. I just AM - according to my other half. And it comes naturally!
Oh I don’t think I am a perfectionist at work just because my desk is clean. It is a good habit that works for me rather than against me. Although I am a little early most days I always leave on time, not a minute more!
I don’t think I need help. I haven’t needed help and generally my husband doesn’t have an issue with them. Over the years either he has been ‘trained’ or we have become co-ordinated as a matter of fact he has become a perfectionist himself! He is a ‘fitness freak’ himself and is a main contributor for maintaining a spotless home!
What I mean is, if being a perfectionist is not causing pain to yourself or nuisances to others, there is nothing wrong with it! But if you are a perfectionist living with a higgledy and piggledy partner then I would imagine some compromise may have to be reached if you want a happy relationship!

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