Do you want me to get over my need for privacy?

May 27, 2008 · 11 comments

You know, one of the things I’ve found important in the past has been maintaining a sense of privacy about the intimate moments of my life, for myself and for those who are involved in it.  However, I’m thinking that this desire for privacy is holding me back from writing some of the stuff I really want to write. 

So I thought I might ask you, the readers, the fans of this blog that have been around for a while.  Do you want me to write more about my life in an intimate fashion?  Do you want to know more about what I do, who I do it with, and how I feel about it?

Or do you want me to keep it all private, and if I have to write about it, then do so elsewhere with an anonymous blog that you don’t have to read?

I value your feedback.

{ 11 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Ken May 27, 2008 at 11:15 pm

The blog is for you, so you should do what you want to do with it 🙂
I know you’ve said that you write for other besides yourself, but if you feel that sharing personal details will help others then do it, if you think it’d be too much of an invasion of your personal space then don’t.

People will read what ever you post regardless.


2 Ella May 28, 2008 at 11:18 am

I certainly noticed the difference between your current blog and previous blog/websites. This one is more general than the old ones which had more ‘juicy bits’ no doubt for good reasons. I understand the need of a bottom line which is, the people ‘intimately’ involved should not feel upset or hurt by what’s written on this blog.
Like Ken said, people read whatever you write on your own blog.


3 Alan Howard May 28, 2008 at 11:21 am

thanks Ken and Ella. Yes, I know this blog is all about me, but I also enjoy getting any feedback about what you want to read more of.

So Ken, you never said what you want to read.

And Ella, you said the old blog had ‘juicy bits’, so I’m assuming that you like reading about those juicy bits? 🙂


4 Akki May 28, 2008 at 1:06 pm

A really straight answer would be “Yes” 🙂


5 Alan Howard May 28, 2008 at 1:12 pm

And what kinds of things do you want to read more of, Akki?


6 Scot May 28, 2008 at 1:20 pm


It’s not so much what you choose to write about–personal or otherwise–that matters. What matters is that you write with a sense of connectiveness and purpose, and that you allow yourself the dignity to take a topic as far as you can go with it. When you write, be passionate and fearless. Explore, and then share. Be mindful of your reader. But most important, discover your voice.

What you write doesn’t have to preach or moralize, or for that matter, predicate what someone should think or do, or be an end-all, tell-all. Write what would be considered a slice of life–your life. Simply put, what you want your readers to do is to vicariously surrender to the experience being shared and become an impartial observer, and to experience what you are experiencing with the full range of your being passionately engaged. When you can do that, you won’t have to wonder whether you need to be personal or not, for any writing that’s worth reading is personal.



7 Akki May 30, 2008 at 10:50 am


It would be more on the lines on what “Scot” said.
Just write what you want to. If you feel your readers should know then be it.
Its all upto you, Personally I am fine with anything 🙂




8 Alan Howard June 1, 2008 at 4:08 pm

Thanks Scot, a very insightful comment which has given me something to think about.


9 Mark June 5, 2008 at 6:20 am

Open up and hit us right between the eyes Alan. Go for it !!


10 Alan Howard June 5, 2008 at 10:40 am

Thanks everyone for the overwhelming vote of ignoring people’s rights to privacy! *grin*

But you’re right. It’s my blog, and I need to make of it what I will. If people don’t like it, they don’t have to read it, but probably many others will!

I’ll still change or leave out names in relevant situations… I don’t need to embarrass anyone personally!


11 Ross Hill July 6, 2008 at 8:34 pm

I think privacy is definitely evolving, but at the same time it can be those little snippets which change the blog into a more interesting and personal conversation.

Leaving out names is good in some circumstances but that also makes it more interesting. There isn’t much I hate more than getting a “I work for a global consulting company” in reply to “what do you do?” 🙂

It’s your blog. Say what you like 🙂


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