January 9, 2012 · 5 comments

What honestly needs to happen for you to feel happier in your life?

Why isn't it happening?

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1 Polly Merkner January 9, 2012 at 3:41 pm

Acceptance is all that is needed to make me happier in life. I don't need anyone else's acceptance, I just need to accept my life for what it is and stop trying to force it to be what it isn't. I need to accept those around me as they are and stop wishing they were different. I need to accept my flaws and stop trying to be perfect.

I'm not settling for less than what I have, I'm just accepting that this is the hand I've been dealt, I am who I am, and those I love are who they are. My life isn't perfect, I'm not perfect, and my loved ones aren't either. And that is OK.

It sounds like an easy thing to have, but it is oh so hard to achieve. We are conditioned to be thinner, prettier, wittier, smarter, wealthier, in short, "better" than we are now, but that often leads to broken dreams, failed goals, and feelings of inadequacy.


2 Alan Imrie January 10, 2012 at 1:38 am

I agree wholeheartly with +Polly Merkner when I was younger I thought I needed more stuff to be happier. Then as I got older I realised that as long as I was happy, then that really was the main thing. Material things may seem to make people happier, but inevitably when you look closer those people are more miserable than the people that have nothing.

The grass may alway be greener on the other side, but usually the other side is colder or wetter.


3 Alan Howard January 10, 2012 at 1:00 pm

+Polly Merkner what's stopping you from accepting your life for what it is?

+Alan Imrie what makes you happy now? Could you be happier?


4 Polly Merkner January 10, 2012 at 1:46 pm

+Alan Howard , in all honesty, nothing. It is just a struggle at times to remember that I'm good just the way I am. That my life is great (really it is). I think we all have pressures we experience every day whether it is something at work, issues at home, or just inner strife with how we view ourselves or think the rest of the world views us. Those are the times when I have to step back and remind myself that in a few weeks at most none of the issues I'm facing right now will matter.

I have a mantra that I repeat when I'm upset. It goes like this: "It is what it is, and it will be how it will be." I can't change how others act, but I can change how I react, and that is what will determine my happiness.


5 Alan Imrie January 11, 2012 at 3:54 am

Actually, I don't think I could be happier, or at least anything I can change wont make me happier. As far as what makes me happy, I have a job which I enjoy, I have a great wife and a healthy son and a roof over my head. Maybe if I could see my family more often. My parents are getting on in years and are at the other side of the Atlantic ocean.


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