Outraged

I found quite an interesting post over here relating to age differences between online friends, and how the author felt 'weird' to be friends with people ten years or more younger than him.

At my old age of 31, were I to be a "real world" friend of any 20 year old girl, people should be asking questions. If I were palling around with some 14 year-old boy geek, they would be asking other questions. Yet, the occasional eyebrow-raising invite hits my e-mail box, and makes me wonder if somebody just might get the wrong idea.

Isn't it a sad state of affairs when we have 30 year old men believing that people should be asking questions if they have friendship with 20 year old women (interesting that he calls her a girl…)  And he would expect people to be suspicious if he was friends with a 14 year old boy. And he worries about what people would think when he gets invites from young people in his email….

This is one of the problems I've seen happening with political correctness (PC) gaining such a horrible foothold in society.  Media, along with the vocal and fearful minorities, have encouraged a social expectation that all men are potential paedophiles (I'm wondering when being a father will be banned or 'only under supervision'…), and that large differences in age between two people actually means one is predator and one is victim.

My parents had an age difference of about 20 years, with dad marrying mum when he was 40.  Her being 20 was once normal and accepted.  Today it seems to imply that the older man is a predator or desperate, and the woman is either a money-grabber or a victim. 

Society has become cynical and callous, seeming to believe that every person is either a criminal or a victim in some fashion.  Gone are the days of mentoring, helping young people grow, to become responsible adults.  Nowadays, if you want to help a young person, people think you have predatory and 'evil' motivations.

You know, I think that something is happening here which is really sad. 

It's a common psychological theme that we see in others what is in ourselves.  We expect others to do as we do.  If we think people are essentially good it's because we are essentially good.  And the opposite is also true, that if we think people are essentially evil, it's because we are essentially evil. 

We see in others exactly what we see in ourselves.

There was recent controversy here in Australia about artistic photos being displayed of a young, naked teenage girl. It inflamed the nation, inspired discussion and 'righteous indignation'.  Quite a number of people decided that the photos were pornography, and the artist / photographer should be arrested for pornography, and the girl's parents should be arrested for the same thing, as well as exploitation. 

An interesting comment I read from some blogger at the time (whose blog eludes me right now) was based around the following concept: what kind of people look at a young, naked teenage girl and automatically think of sex?

The accusations people make about what others do, and the opinions they share of various politically correct concepts that they wholeheartedly support, simply shows what goes on in their own minds.

And this shows it's not a coincidence that some of the major proponents of child pornography laws engage in child pornography themselves. 

The judgements we have of other people only show the judgements we have about ourselves.  Before you judge others for their actions, make sure that you're not making it obvious what you think about yourself.

And back to the original topic of this post…  I wholeheartedly support people of all ages coming together to assist each other or be assisted in the pursuit of various interests and goals.  Young people need guidance from adults as they become adults themselves, or they appreciate an adult helping them find success in a shared interest.

When you help people grow, you're helping yourself grow.  When, in fear or ignorance, you do what you can to prevent growth relationships, you say more about yourself than about others.

I think people should be charged for crimes they commit, rather than on the fearful suspicions going on inside the head of their accusers.  What do you think?

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I’m not sorry

February 16, 2008 · 1 comment

During the week just gone, Australia had its 'Sorry Day', where the government apologised to the Aborigines for the treatment they experienced generations ago. I can certainly understand the need for the Australian government to be seen saying sorry for something the government was responsible for generations ago, and I see it as a positive step forward for reconciliation.

However, the problem I have is apologising for something that's not the fault of the current generation. There's two forms of 'sorry'. One is 'I'm sorry you experienced something tragic. I know I can never know what it's like for you as a result of what happened.' The other is 'I'm sorry that I caused you great suffering.' The first is valid for Australia's 'sorry day', while the second is not. The current government is not responsible for the actions of its predecessors 40-50 years ago.

Unfortunately, the Aboriginal people seem to be split in their desires for reconciliation or compensation. Some just want to move forward, acknowledging the mistakes of the past, and working towards the future. Others don't think that's enough, and want more. A lot more. These are the people who are preferring to believe that 'I'm sorry' means 'I'm responsible', and the court cases are already beginning.

Within 24 hours of the 'I'm sorry' day ending, I heard news reports that one group of Aboriginals are planning on taking the government to court so sue for compensation, as they're 'victims' of the current government. Another Aboriginal woman wants to take the leader of the Opposition party to court because he used examples of past Aboriginal tragedy as outlined in a book. Her example was referred to by him, and since he never asked her permission to read something that's in the public record anyway, she now claims she feels 'violated' all over again.

I can see opportunists coming out of the ground. People are naturally greedy, and they will grab every opportunity they can to get money from a situation. The government did what they could to ensure they were not claiming liability for something that happened 40+ years ago, but some people just don't care. They'll screw others for everything they can, whenever and wherever they can.

It's pretty disappointing. What are your thoughts on the matter?

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How indifferent are you?

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Don’t cruise with Princess Cruise

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Idiot drivers

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Driving to work this morning I was witness to two near-accidents, with both of them involving idiots doing exactly the same thing. Imagine you’re on a three-lane road, and you’ve got a car on the left and a car on the right, and they both want to inhabit the middle lane. At the same time. […]

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6 October 2007

It started off great – I woke up! Always a good sign. Even got to work on time! I was pretty busy most of the day, which was ok, but then it went to hell around 4pm. I was supposed to get a phone call from a technician who would be coming out to our […]

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Today is NOT the anniversary of 9/11

11 September 2007

The media here in Australia is going out of their way to sell news by starting the 9/11 anniversay a day early.  Very annoying.  Since it’s a ‘9/11 anniversary’ according to the US, it should be remembered according to the US timing.  Here in Australia it happened on ‘9/12’, or as we say here in […]

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APEC security is awesome

7 September 2007

Fake motorcade causes summit stir – CNN.com Members of an Australian TV comedy show [“The Chaser’s War on Everything,”], one of them dressed as Osama bin Laden, drove through two security checkpoints Thursday before being stopped near the Sydney hotel where U.S. President George W. Bush is staying. Foreign Minister Alexander Downer said the stunt […]

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APEC in Sydney annoys me. A lot.

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For anyone that doesn’t know, the leaders of the APEC (Asia-Pacific Economic Cooperation) countries are going to be in Sydney from 2nd September. Here’s a few of the things that are really annoying the hell out of me at the moment. Pm blames violent protesters for tough APEC security This annoys me because there haven’t […]

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American IRS failed to prove tax liability

26 July 2007

One of the biggest scandals of America is the power that the IRS has over the freedom of its people. Through intimidation and extortion and using the police force as its thugs to take property from people, the IRS has taken a lot of money and caused a lot of pain. The Internal Revenue Service […]

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