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Important qualities of a lasting relationship

Add comment November 28th, 2005

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Alternate realities

1 comment November 22nd, 2005

"I dreamed I was a butterfly, flitting around in the sky; then I awoke. Now I wonder: Am I a man who dreamt of being a butterfly, or am I a butterfly dreaming that I am a man?"
- Chuang Tsu

"Have you ever had a dream, Neo, that you were so sure was real? What if you were unable to wake from that dream? How would you know the difference between the dream world and the real world?"
- Morpheus, The Matrix

Spiritual reality

4 comments November 20th, 2005

Are you psychic? I am. Or used to be, over a decade ago. I was able to see a person's past or future, feel the presence of 'lost souls', and channel the words of spirit guides through automatic writing. I even ran a spiritual development group for a while, to help other people develop their own psychic abilities.

There was a spiritual church I went to a couple of times, but I stopped going when I realised that most of the people there were trapped in the past. They were there to talk to their dead loved ones through a medium. These spiritualists, as they called themselves, were so fixated on the past they couldn't move forward.

Eight rules for writing fiction

Add comment November 6th, 2005

I found this on the weekend and thought it was excellent advice for a budding young (or not so young) writer such as myself. I thought I'd share it with you:

1. Use the time of a total stranger in such a way that he or she will not feel the time was wasted.

2. Give the reader at least one character he or she can root for.
3. Every character should want something, even if it is only a glass of water.
4. Every sentence must do one of two things — reveal character or advance the action.

Respect

Add comment October 19th, 2005

Up until I met Deidre early this year I had spent a couple of years dating mainly asian women, as I had come to feel that western women just didn't have the attitude I was looking for in a relationship or in a partner. I had a number of experiences and realisations in my life that helped me realise I was more interested in being with an asian woman than a western woman. The main reason for this was that throughout the relationships I'd had and the things that I'd learnt, what stuck out was that asian women respect what their men do for them, something that in my experience most western women do not. I learnt that what many westerners see as asian submissiveness is actually misunderstood by them, and is instead respect and appreciation for someone who cares for them.

Drugs are bad, mmkay?

1 comment October 3rd, 2005

Drugs are bad, mmkay?

When I was around 18, I started mixing with people who became my friends or associates, but who partook liberally of that wacky weed called marriage-ooh-ana (marijhuana). I constantly resisted their efforts to indoctrinate me into their drug-smoking club, just happy to be friends with them instead. A big part of my resistance was my desire to not succumb to peer pressure, to avoid brainwashing and manipulation, to make up my own mind about what I wanted to do. And smoking weed wasn't one of those things I wanted to do.

Who are you? Who do you want to be?

Add comment September 27th, 2005

Who you are today is a result of the choices you've made over the past 5 years. Who you are to become in 5 years time will be a result of the choices you make today. Choose wisely.
- author unknown

I heard that quote at an Amway seminar over a decade ago, and I've never forgotten it. Who you are today is a result of your choices, and who you are to become will also be a result of your choices.

Who do you want to become? What do you want to achieve?