Dating and relationships
In the past, one of the most common topics I used to write about was my dating and relationship experiences. (I just checked the Tag Cloud, and discovered that it is THE most common topic, with 124 posts having been written about the subject…) However, in the past 12 months I’ve only written 3 posts tagged ‘relationships’ and only 1 post tagged ‘dating’. I only realised this yesterday and felt quite amazed.
If you’ve been aware of my dating and relationship history over the years, you’d be amazed too. 
There’s this girl I haven’t met yet
I’ve met this girl online.
It’s not unusual, as there’s plenty of them out there. But I like this one. The last girl that I met online and liked was just over 4 years ago, so it’s been a while.
I haven’t met her yet. I don’t even know if we’ll ever meet, but it’s likely we will.
She’s going through some emotional challenges right now. It seems that I’m the first person in a long time that’s made her feel like she’d like something more, and that scares her. And for me, she’s the first person in a long time who’s made me feel like I want something more too.
That doesn’t scare me though. It excites me.
Like everything, time will tell a story. And it’ll be on this blog.
Whatever you want
It was about 10 years ago, while I was in Canberra. This was before dating websites were all the rage. It was when Netscape 3 was popular, and Internet Explorer was hardly heard of. ICQ and IRC were the chat programs of choice. But back then, I had only just started using the internet. I met this woman via a newspaper 'phone dating' service.
She lived in Sydney, was about 24 (I was 28), and sounded great during the phone conversations we had. After a week or two, I went to Sydney and stayed with my friend Peter for the weekend. While I was there, I met up with her. She seemed really nice, and we got along great. I spent most of the day with her before kissing her and 'making out' behind the Sydney Opera House, around 8pm or so. It was a very nice time. Then I bid goodnight to her and went back to Peter's place.
Dating For Men
I had found that I can create a number of different blogs, all linked to a single account. As a result of this discovery, I started doing this journal after I'd setup the political blog, and now I've completed Dating For Men. This is my 3rd blog using this blogger.com system.
Dating For Men is going to be where I place my articles and comments aimed at men who need help understanding their role in relationships, and understanding more of what women want and need. It's from my point of view, and is focused on using my own experiences and knowledge rather than the textbook stuff that many other websites use.
Most dating sites focus their material on what they think women want, which is usually based on what women say they want. However, the interesting thing about women and relationships is that women don't always want what they say they want. They want something more.
Rejected Again
It doesn't matter how good looking you are, or how confident you are, or how funny you are, or how much you prepare. You will always be rejected by someone. There's a saying: "you can't please everyone all the time". And neither can you please all the women all the time.
So don't try. Accept that there's going to be some women you're not going to please, and who will reject you.
They could be rejecting you for so many reasons, none of which you can control. Maybe she feels ill and not in the mood to talk. Maybe she's got a boyfriend or partner, and isn't available. Maybe she's got her eye on another guy and you're a distraction she's just not interested in right now. Maybe your brand of cologne reminds her of an abusive ex, and she'd just rather not want to be around you to avoid the memories.
