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Growing out of passive aggression

3 comments August 6th, 2008

When I started learning about passive aggression, one of the things that stood out for me was that wherever I looked, all the 'experts' were telling me that passive aggression cannot be cured, and that all they can do is hope to control it.

I'm not so sure that's true.

What are some of the common traits of passive aggressives?  Procrastination, inefficiency, avoidance, blaming others….

It's very easy for a passive aggressive to continue the trend and find reasons why they can't be 'cured'.  They may even use the diagnosis itself of being passive aggressive to justify why they can't change who they are.

What’s my personal brand?

Add comment February 20th, 2008

Over here, Steve Pavlina discusses personal branding, which is "how you market yourself to the world. Your personal brand is what other people think of you." He also asked his audience to do him a favour, to send him three adjectives that they feel describe him. I thought that's a great idea, and I want to ask you guys, who are reading this blog, to do the same. Send me an email with just 3 words that pop into your head. (Please email them to me instead of commenting here, so that your contribution doesn't influence others.) Don't worry if they're positive or even negative, because what's important is what you think describes me as a person. This is useful for me to understand how I'm being perceived by you, the readers, and for that reason I'd love to get 3 words from all of you, whether you've been reading for years, or months, or even if you've just visited. Your feedback in this way will help me gain further clarification about how I'm presenting myself and the content in this blog. Please take the time to send me those 3 words that you feel best describe me. I look forward to hearing from you!

Disciplining kids

5 comments November 10th, 2005

I hate watching tv. I never watch it - unless it distracts me when someone else is watching it. Eg. Deidre. Tonight there was a show about a 'supernanny' helping a couple change the habits of their 4 kids. This show is about kids being little demons, completely uncontrollable, absolute little shits. I'm sure you know the type.

Tips on being more creative

6 comments October 20th, 2005

I'm always interested in ways of improving myself and doing things better, and for that reason I'm often looking out for ways of improving myself. Here's something I found that I thought interesting, and maybe you'll find it interesting too.

1. Ignore everybody.

The more original your idea is, the less good advice other people will be able to give you. When I first started with the biz card format, people thought I was nuts. Why wasn't I trying to do something more easy for markets to digest i.e. cutey-pie greeting cards or whatever?

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Respect

Add comment October 19th, 2005

Up until I met Deidre early this year I had spent a couple of years dating mainly asian women, as I had come to feel that western women just didn't have the attitude I was looking for in a relationship or in a partner. I had a number of experiences and realisations in my life that helped me realise I was more interested in being with an asian woman than a western woman. The main reason for this was that throughout the relationships I'd had and the things that I'd learnt, what stuck out was that asian women respect what their men do for them, something that in my experience most western women do not. I learnt that what many westerners see as asian submissiveness is actually misunderstood by them, and is instead respect and appreciation for someone who cares for them.

Where’s your damn balls!

Add comment July 13th, 2005

There's a guy at work who just started seeing one of the ladies there. He was invited out for a beer but he said he had to talk to his girlfriend first. They spoke on the phone, and he was pleading with her to let him go for just one beer. In the end he told her he would see her soon and hung up, and then said to the other guy that he's not allowed to. They then talked about something else.

I shook my head in amazement.

Cowards and relationships

Add comment April 14th, 2005

My very good friend Amanda rang me this morning.  She’s my friend from Australia, who featured in some of my journal entries years ago.  See here and here for refresher information on her role in my life.  She’s been a special part of my life for a few years now.  Anyway, she rang because she is having relationship problems with her partner, who she’s been with for around 5 years now.